Child Abuse on TV

I just watched a show on TV being billed as, “The most controversial show on TV.”  It is “Friday Night Tykes” on the Esquire Network. It features  five different football teams in Texas. The teams are made up of 8 and 9 year-old boys. I have to admit I find football very boring and just have never watched it. Truth is I have never watched sports at all except sporting games my kids participated in. “Friday Night Tykes” is somewhat hard to watch. I say that because it brings out the worst in coaches and parents. On that level I’d have to say it is the sickest reality show I have ever seen on TV. One coach was telling his kids how they need to rip off the heads of their next opponents and make them bleed.  One coach at practice started trash talking their opponents leading a chant, “Fuck the Rockets, fuck the Rockets.” His assistant coach mentioned that the parents might not like that. The coach shot back, “Fuck the parents.” Many of the parents loved to be seen on TV talking smack about the opponents during the game. One mother was not happy after the game unless she had parents from the other team complaining about her trash talk.

The coaches are sick bullies trying to live out their fantasies and the same could be said for some of the parents. “We were done with the “everybody gets a trophy, everybody wins, everybody gets a fair turn,’” said parent Lisa Connell. “We wanted our son to understand the value of working hard and the reward that came with that.” She said this while her 8 year-old son Colby was puking and crying after being hit hard at practice in 99 degree Texas heat. The coach said to Colby “Blow chunks and then we’re going to go.” Meaning they were going to continue practice. The coaches tell the kids to ignore their pains. We really need to quit buying that, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” mentality. Would someone really say that about sexual abuse? I don’t think you can say that about the child abuse these kids are taking from coaches and parents either. Lisa has been complaining to the coach that her son isn’t getting to play in the games. The coaches aren’t willing to put in second stringers unless they are far ahead in a game. One game had a team winning by 46-6 and they played their best players the whole game. This same coach had his players run laps after the game because the other team had scored 6 points. These coaches brag about having whole seasons where other teams has never scored a point against them.

The need to feel macho by playing and watching football is really sad. I’m surprised mothers don’t speak out more at some of the things coaches say to their sons. Many coach’s comments are just plain derogatory to women. Comments like Eric Nolden, a coach with the Outlaws, telling boys: “Emotions are a female trait. This is a man’s sport.” I saw where one mother said she was willing to let her son put up with anything because she wants to win.

Parents of one boy watched their son get hit so hard he ended up in the hospital with a concussion. The boy didn’t recognize either parent or know who he was for three days. On doctors orders the boy had to sit out the next few games which disappointed the parents. The parents had come to a decision when their son signed up to play football. That decision was that they were not going to let him play if he had three concussions. I found that as crazy as one man explaining that coaches had been trying to recruit his large son since he was 3 years-old.

I have said over and over that I want a better world for my kids. I’m betting you feel the same. That means we need to call out coaches and parents who are doing our next generation harm. I’ve found kids don’t always listen but they do imitate. Role models live forever so be one!

Former NFL player calls the coaches and parents of these Texas youth football teams either sick or evil. He says it is either neglect or abuse.

I just wish I’d see more inspirational moments like this one with an autistic boy making a touchdown.

Baby Huey: “Hard Times”

“Mighty Mighty Children”

“Class is striving hard to be the best at what you do while taking the needs of others into consideration” – Roger Staubach



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2 responses to “Child Abuse on TV

  1. Jim Jordan

    Yes, I think the football culture is a bit sick. Yes, I am a fan of the game, but the possibility of getting hurt is just too great for young boys 8 and 9 playing the game. Nice to hear from you, Jim. HappyNew Year to you and yours. JJ

  2. elecpencil

    Thanks Jim. I coached youth soccer for a few years. I couldn’t believe some of the behaviors of coaches and parents. That experience makes me not surprised at behaviors in “Friday Night Tykes.” Happy New Year to your family!

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